I was so happy to see this great article today in Canada’s largest-circulation national paper, The Globe and Mail, about how divorce is changing for our neighbors up north. “Divorcing with dignity: How modern exes are treating a split as an awakening,” looks at Canadian couples who co-parent cooperatively, celebrate holidays together, and even help out with each other’s laundry. I spoke to reporter Zosia Bielski when she was writing her piece, which is the most thorough and balanced piece of reporting about today’s changing divorce that I’ve seen.
As Bielski writes:
“These husbands and wives want what’s best for their kids, which is family, and they want to salvage their own sanity. Many are doing things differently because they saw the carnage of their parents’ divorces, with mom and dad not speaking or badmouthing each other in front of the kids. There are good reasons why some divorces go very badly: chronic infidelity, abuse, mental illness and addiction can make separating traumatic. But for others parting under less extenuating circumstances, divorce can be an awakening: Some people find they are better ex-spouses than they were spouses.”